What is BDSM ?
BDSM Safety 101
WHAT IS BDSM 101
Before you get into the hot and heavy bits, It’s important for you to know what BDSM is and what it is not.
BDSM is the art of bondage, domination, sadism and masochism as components of a lifestyle based on power exchange relationships.
We practice SSC
What is Safe Sane and Consensual BDSM?
I define BDSM as the conscious practice of using psychological and physical acts of dominance and submission and/or humiliation, bondage, or pain play along with related practices. These attitudes and activities, practiced legally in a safe, sane and consensual manner for erotic pleasureand arousal between consenting parties form the basis of this style of relationship dynamic.
Both parties participate in mutual agreement that they will not do anything that would require a physician, psychotherapist, psychologist or other allied health care professional or services in order to heal or recover from a ‘scene’.
What is a scene?
A ‘scene’ is a consensual sexual practice or activity ‘outside’ of what is normally or typically defined as ‘regular’ sex. Activities such as tying someone up or spanking them over your knee to the point of erection or orgasm are typical of such ‘scenes’.
It’s important to know that BDSM isn’t for everyone, but for those who can identify with it, I want you to know, you are certainly not alone. There is nothing wrong with you in any way shape or form. That is one of the many reasons I have chosen to write this book; to educate those new to the path of power exchange and the erotic world of BDSM, as well as to give you a guide that will allow you to begin in a safe sane and consensual manner as well as a guide in how best to communicate your desires.
Now I am certainly not an expert by any means, but as a researcher and avid student of life, I urge you to study as much material as you can before jumping into the deep end of BDSM. Practices such as bondage using rope a.k.a. ‘rope play’, breath play and erotic torture can be risky and therefore potentially dangerous. The more we educate ourselves, the safer we are as players and the safer we become as a community.
You see, BDSM forces you to be honest with yourself first.
The emotional and psychological bonds created in these kinds of relationships far exceed those found in average so-called ‘vanilla’ relationships because of the level of trust needed in order to create and maintain them in the first place.
Once you are truly honest with yourself about your needs wants and desires in a relationship, you’ll discover a sense of freedom and glee; after all, that’s what it's all about right? Everything we do, we do in the hope we will be happier, give happiness or bring happiness to ourselves and others.
Sharing our deepest desires with each other forges a bond of trust that expresses itself in the very first scene you act out together as dominant and submissive or as a Sadist and Masochist .
